No One Is the Monster and No One Is the Hero in a Struggling Marriage If you’re struggling in your marriage, no one partner is the monster, and no one partner is the hero either. You have both built the dysfunction. When marriages hurt, it’s easy to fall into extremes. You might tell yourself that … Read more
No Marriage Is Perfect: Healing the Patterns That Divide You No marriage is perfect. Even the healthiest marriages have their ups and downs. Sometimes we see other couples, maybe on social media or through friends and family, and we think, Man, I wish I had that because my marriage is struggling. But even those marriages … Read more
Why Emotional Trust Comes Before Sex in Marriage Your wife does not want to sleep with a husband she does not emotionally trust. That is why it is so important to build emotional safety and self-leadership through healing. That is how you rebuild respect and trust and desire in your marriage. See, it is more … Read more
You must heal the relationship with yourself before you can ever heal the relationship with others. For years I was trying to fix my marriage. I was trying to fix my wife. I was trying to fix myself, but not in a healthy way, and nothing ever seemed to work, and I just felt more … Read more
So how is our hardwired need for connection different than neediness? There’s a misconception that if you need connection, you’re needy, and somehow you have to be independent and not rely on anyone emotionally. And that needing love makes you weak. But that’s a false belief. And it can be destructive in your marriage. Because … Read more
Secure men don’t stuff their emotions. They feel them and they lead through them. When I started on this journey, I would read all kind of things in the manosphere about how men are not to feel their feelings. Misunderstandings about stoicism. Comments like, you’re a man. Ignore your emotions. Don’t feel, just act. Feelings …