self-abandonment

How Do I Know If I’m Healed? Signs of a Secure Husband

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One of the most common questions I get from coaching clients is this: “How do I know when I’m healed?” Usually, that question comes after months of doing the work. They’ve been learning how to regulate their nervous system. They’ve been practicing self-soothing. They’ve been holding space for their wives. They’ve been working on triggers … Read more

Loyal to a Fault? When Loyalty Becomes Self-Abandonment

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Men Who Struggle With Insecurity Are Extremely Loyal. But Can That Become a Fault? If you struggle with insecurity, chances are you are incredibly loyal. You wear it like a badge of honor. You tell yourself: And just to be clear, loyalty matters. Integrity matters. Commitment matters. You are supposed to be loyal to your … Read more

Your Wife Won’t Have Sex With a Husband She Doesn’t Emotionally Trust

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Why Emotional Trust Comes Before Sex in Marriage Your wife does not want to sleep with a husband she does not emotionally trust. That is why it is so important to build emotional safety and self-leadership through healing. That is how you rebuild respect and trust and desire in your marriage. See, it is more … Read more

You Must Heal Yourself Before You Can Heal The Marriage

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You must heal the relationship with yourself before you can ever heal the relationship with others. For years I was trying to fix my marriage. I was trying to fix my wife. I was trying to fix myself, but not in a healthy way, and nothing ever seemed to work, and I just felt more … Read more