You must heal the relationship with yourself before you can ever heal the relationship with others. For years I was trying to fix my marriage. I was trying to fix my wife. I was trying to fix myself...

So how is our hardwired need for connection different than neediness? There’s a misconception that if you need connection, you’re needy, and somehow you have to be independent and not rely on anyone...

Secure men don’t stuff their emotions. They feel them and they lead through them. When I started on this journey, I would read all kind of things in the manosphere about how men are not to feel their...

But I had a good childhood, so why is this affecting my marriage? A comment that’s made over and over in my coaching sessions by many of the men that I work with says something along the lines of, you...

In this corner we have the pursuer. And in this corner, the distancer. Have you ever heard of the pursuer-distancer dynamic? It’s loosely tied to the concept of the anxious or preoccupied attachment...

Why is it so hard for us to communicate our needs? Why do we struggle saying what we need? I always wondered that. Why did I have such a hard time communicating my needs without trying to control...

On my last article, I was talking about resistance. I got more than a handful of comments back from guys who didn’t really understand where I was going with that. So let’s go a little deeper into this...

Previously we went into depth over fear and how fear keeps us stuck. But there is an extension of fear that causes resistance. You notice it when you make a decision to heal. You are doing the work...

On a recent podcast, I said, what if you do all this work? You become secure and nothing changes. It is really important that you’re able to lead yourself even when your wife stays disconnected. Let...