So how is our hardwired need for connection different than neediness? There’s a misconception that if you need connection, you’re needy, and somehow you have to be independent and not rely on anyone emotionally. And that needing love makes you weak. But that’s a false belief. And it can be destructive in your marriage. Because … Read more
Secure men don’t stuff their emotions. They feel them and they lead through them. When I started on this journey, I would read all kind of things in the manosphere about how men are not to feel their feelings. Misunderstandings about stoicism. Comments like, you’re a man. Ignore your emotions. Don’t feel, just act. Feelings … Read more
If you’re a married man who feels disrespected by your wife, it’s probably eating away at you. You don’t want to lash out. You don’t want to shut down. But the sarcasm, the eye rolls, the tone—it hits a nerve. It feels personal. It feels unfair. And it probably feels like it’s happening way too … Read more
So is this real or just insecurity? How do I know if this jealousy I’m feeling is the truth? I hear this question a lot from good men who are struggling in their marriage. And I’ve been there myself. That jealous feeling—that tightness in your chest when your wife seems a little too engaged talking … Read more