THE
SECURE
HUSBAND

Men with insecurities struggle with life, marriage and relationships.
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with bruce abbott

Accredited Certified Professional Coach (CPC), Husband, and Father

WHAT IS A SECURE HUSBAND"?

A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife—he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you break free from old patterns, reclaim your strength, and transform your marriage from the inside out.

One-On-One Coaching

I understand the specific challenges faced by men struggling in their marriage. One-on-one sessions are available to provide focused attention and support

Group Classes

Take advantage of dynamic group classes designed to foster a sense of community and provide a supportive learning environment. These group classes bring together other men - often in the same scenarios you are - who are navigating similar challenges with marriage and relationships, creating a space for connection, shared experiences, and mutual support.

Workshops and Courses

My live workshops provide an interactive and immersive learning experience, allowing participants to engage directly with experienced coaches and ask questions in real-time. For those unable to attend live sessions, I also provide recorded workshops that can be accessed at any time, allowing for flexible learning. In addition, I offer custom-created courses that cater to specific needs and interests, addressing unique challenges faced by men struggling with relationships.

LATEST VIDEOS

Thinking about starting over with someone new? Feeling tired, disconnected, or done with your marriage? This episode is your wake-up call. In today’s video, we talk about a truth most men miss: 👉 You can leave your marriage... 👉 You can find someone new who laughs at your jokes and wants you again... 👉 But if you don’t heal your inner wounds — the next relationship will hurt just like this one. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn: ✅ Why the next woman feels so good — at first ✅ How old wounds show up in new relationships ✅ Why new love doesn’t fix old pain ✅ How to stop repeating the same story with a new name ✅ What to do right now to heal and grow before your next step ✅ How to follow The Secure Husband Process and become the man who can love without losing himself If you’re separated, divorced, or stuck in a marriage you think is over… Before you jump into something new — watch this. You’ll also discover: How your emotional patterns follow you Why women pull away when they feel pressure How to stop chasing connection and start building safety What emotional leadership looks like in real life Why healing first changes everything that comes next This video will help you stop running from pain — and start healing for good. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
Different Woman, Same Wounds: Why the Next Relationship Will Hurt Too (Unless You Heal)
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If you feel starved without touch… you’re not weak. You’re human. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is for the man who feels like he can’t live without affection. You feel the pain of not being hugged, held, or touched — and it’s starting to feel like you’re falling apart. In this video, we break down: Why affection is a real, valid need — not a weakness When craving touch becomes emotional survival How to stop letting her affection define your worth What to do when she pulls away and you feel rejected How to build a life that keeps you full — even without physical closeness The exact steps of The Secure Husband Process to stop begging and start leading This isn’t about pretending you don’t care. It’s about becoming the kind of man who stays strong, loving, and steady — even when things feel distant. You’ll learn how to: ✅ Heal your inner pain around rejection ✅ Stop pressuring her for connection ✅ Reclaim your emotional balance ✅ Lead with strength, not fear ✅ Invite closeness without needing it to survive If you’re ready to feel wanted again — without falling apart when you’re not — this video is for you. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
You May Be Able to Live Without Affection, But I Can't
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You are the only one in charge of your happiness. But your energy still shapes your marriage every single day. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break down the truth that many men miss: You can’t make your wife happy — but your words, actions, and attitude affect her deeply. When you lead yourself with strength, peace, and purpose… You create an emotional space where love, trust, and joy can grow again. 👊 In this video, you’ll learn: Why chasing her affection kills connection How to stop putting your mood in her hands How your energy shapes the emotional climate at home What it looks like to lead yourself emotionally How to create a home where safety and love can return Why emotional leadership matters more than control This isn’t about fixing her. It’s about becoming the kind of man who stops reacting and starts leading from fullness — not fear. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
Yes, You're Each 100% Responsible for Your Own Happiness — But You Still Influence Hers
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Has your wife stopped showing interest in sex or physical touch like she used to? You’re not alone — and you’re not broken. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why your wife’s desire has changed and what it really means. It’s not rejection. It’s not about your worth. It’s about learning to lead with calm strength instead of fear and pressure. 🎯 You’ll learn: Why the honeymoon phase always fades Why her desire is different now — and that’s okay How your reaction might be making things worse What responsive desire is and how to work with it How to stop chasing and start leading with steady love Why emotional safety—not pressure—leads to closeness This isn’t about giving up on intimacy. It’s about creating the safety, space, and trust that help it grow again. 🛠 We walk through the Secure Husband Process step-by-step — a clear path to stop reacting, heal your neediness, and become a grounded man your wife can feel again. 💡 Stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” 💪 Start asking, “How can I show up with strength, even now?” If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
Understanding Your Wife's Desire: Why It Changed
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You’re tired of chasing your wife. Tired of being the one who always reaches out first. Tired of feeling unwanted, unheard, and unseen. So you’re asking the question: “If I stop trying, am I giving up on intimacy?” This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast gives you the answer — in clear, honest, simple language. You’re not giving up. You’re giving up the pressure. And that is what gives intimacy a chance to grow again. ▶️ In this episode, you’ll learn: Why chasing creates distance, not desire What your neediness is really trying to fix How to stop looking to your wife to feel like a man Why emotional safety (not pressure) invites intimacy How to rebuild connection from calm strength, not fear We walk through The Secure Husband Process — a six-step path to shift your energy, stop chasing, and become a safe, grounded man your wife can feel again. 🛑 Stop begging. 🌱 Start becoming. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
If I Stop Chasing Her, Am I Giving Up on Sex and Affection?
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Do you feel like you're being loving, but she feels smothered? It's neediness, not love. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast will challenge what you think love looks like. If you find yourself giving affection but getting distance in return, this is for you. Here’s what we cover: ✅ Why your “love” might actually be emotional neediness ✅ How insecurity from childhood can show up in marriage ✅ Why pressure, jealousy, and clinginess push her away ✅ How to stop chasing and start loving from strength ✅ How to give affection from fullness, not fear You don’t need to try harder. You need to get honest about where your love is coming from. In this episode, you’ll walk through The Secure Husband Process — a 6-step path that helps you stop acting from emotional survival and start leading from inner peace, strength, and spiritual connection. Stop reacting. Start leading. 👇 Watch now and learn how to stop smothering and start loving with confidence. 📌 Need help becoming that man? Check the show notes for coaching, courses, and a brotherhood of men doing this work. 💬 Let us know in the comments if this hit home. 🔔 Subscribe for more weekly tools to become a Secure Husband. If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #SaveYourMarriage #SecureHusband #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #InnerChildHealing #MensMentalHealth #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing #OvercomeRejection #HealthyMasculinity #MarriageCoaching #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfGrowth For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.
It’s Not Love — It’s Neediness
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