One of the most common questions I get from coaching clients is this: “How do I know when I’m healed?” Usually, that question comes after months of doing the work. They’ve been learning how to regulate their nervous system. They’ve been practicing self-soothing. They’ve been holding space for their wives. They’ve been working on triggers … Read more
No One Is the Monster and No One Is the Hero in a Struggling Marriage If you’re struggling in your marriage, no one partner is the monster, and no one partner is the hero either. You have both built the dysfunction. When marriages hurt, it’s easy to fall into extremes. You might tell yourself that … Read more
No Marriage Is Perfect: Healing the Patterns That Divide You No marriage is perfect. Even the healthiest marriages have their ups and downs. Sometimes we see other couples, maybe on social media or through friends and family, and we think, Man, I wish I had that because my marriage is struggling. But even those marriages … Read more