Secure men don’t stuff their emotions. They feel them and they lead through them. When I started on this journey, I would read all kind of things in the manosphere about how men are not to feel their feelings. Misunderstandings about stoicism. Comments like, you’re a man. Ignore your emotions. Don’t feel, just act. Feelings … Read more
Welcome back to step four in our six step article series on the Secure Husband Process. So step one, you noticed—you just noticed where you’ve been abandoning yourself. Step two, you made the conscious, courageous decision to take action. Now we’ll figure out what that action is later. In step three, you learned a dialogue … Read more
You’ve probably thought it. You might’ve even said it out loud. “She used to be into me. We used to have fun. Now it’s excuses. Duty sex. No spark.” And the message you take from that is simple—but deeply painful: “She doesn’t desire me anymore. Something must be wrong with me… or our marriage.” But … Read more
The Pain of “Starfish Sex” What do you do when sex feels disconnected and one-sided? You’re in bed with your wife. Technically, you’re “together.” But it feels… empty. There’s no eye contact. No enthusiasm. No passion. She’s physically present, but emotionally, it feels like she’s somewhere else. It feels like duty sex. Like she’s just … Read more
So is this real or just insecurity? How do I know if this jealousy I’m feeling is the truth? I hear this question a lot from good men who are struggling in their marriage. And I’ve been there myself. That jealous feeling—that tightness in your chest when your wife seems a little too engaged talking … Read more