On my last article, I was talking about resistance. I got more than a handful of comments back from guys who didn’t really understand where I was going with that. So let’s go a little deeper into this hidden resistance that’s blocking your healing. This idea of hidden resistance matters because it confuses a lot … Read more
Previously we went into depth over fear and how fear keeps us stuck. But there is an extension of fear that causes resistance. You notice it when you make a decision to heal. You are doing the work. You want progress. Weeks go by. Months go by. But you still get triggered. You still feel … Read more
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. That’s the title of one of my favorite books of all time by the late Susan Jeffers. And it perfectly illustrates why courage creates the secure husband. I’m Bruce Abbott, a certified professional coach and founder of securehusband.com, helping good men stop avoiding discomfort and start leading their … Read more
Trying to control the uncontrollable is exhausting. And if you’re a husband who feels stuck, frustrated, or desperate for your wife to change—her affection, her interest in sex, her attitude toward you—you’re not alone. But the more you try to manage her emotions, the more disconnected things become. And it’s likely breaking your heart. You … Read more
You’ve got to stop escaping into fantasy and porn and start healing your reality. I say that with love, because I’ve been there. And I’ve walked alongside men who have too. I know what it’s like when your marriage feels distant. When connection feels rare. When you feel unwanted. So instead of facing that pain, … Read more
So is this real or just insecurity? How do I know if this jealousy I’m feeling is the truth? I hear this question a lot from good men who are struggling in their marriage. And I’ve been there myself. That jealous feeling—that tightness in your chest when your wife seems a little too engaged talking … Read more