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The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

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In this corner we have the pursuer. And in this corner, the distancer. Have you ever heard of the pursuer-distancer dynamic? It’s loosely tied to the concept of the anxious or preoccupied attachment husband and the avoidant attachment wife. One is always trying, trying, trying, trying, doing all the work, while the other one is … Read more

Stop Trying To Control The Uncontrollable (Your Wife)

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Trying to control the uncontrollable is exhausting. And if you’re a husband who feels stuck, frustrated, or desperate for your wife to change—her affection, her interest in sex, her attitude toward you—you’re not alone. But the more you try to manage her emotions, the more disconnected things become. And it’s likely breaking your heart. You … Read more