Why is it so hard for us to communicate our needs? Why do we struggle saying what we need? I always wondered that. Why did I have such a hard time communicating my needs without trying to control, collapse, or avoid conflict? Because I would read it everywhere. Express your needs. Communicate your needs and … Read more
On my last article, I was talking about resistance. I got more than a handful of comments back from guys who didn’t really understand where I was going with that. So let’s go a little deeper into this hidden resistance that’s blocking your healing. This idea of hidden resistance matters because it confuses a lot … Read more
Previously we went into depth over fear and how fear keeps us stuck. But there is an extension of fear that causes resistance. You notice it when you make a decision to heal. You are doing the work. You want progress. Weeks go by. Months go by. But you still get triggered. You still feel … Read more
On a recent podcast, I said, what if you do all this work? You become secure and nothing changes. It is really important that you’re able to lead yourself even when your wife stays disconnected. Let me make it clear. When I say you’ve done the work, I mean you have done this process for … Read more
Whether you realize it or not, you hold all the power for change. Here’s the deal. No one is coming to save you, but you hold all the cards. You hold the power to make change in your life. Your needs. Your happiness. And most important, your healing. No one else can do this for … Read more
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. That’s the title of one of my favorite books of all time by the late Susan Jeffers. And it perfectly illustrates why courage creates the secure husband. I’m Bruce Abbott, a certified professional coach and founder of securehusband.com, helping good men stop avoiding discomfort and start leading their … Read more
Why do so many good men accept less than they deserve in marriage and in life? It’s because they’re settling. And settling isn’t love. It’s low self-worth. I work with good men who want to stop living small and start leading from a place of strength, courage, and emotional maturity. And one of the biggest … Read more
So you noticed your emotional reactions and your circumstances. You made a choice to grow and show up differently. You connected with your inner child. You listened to your higher power for truth, you took loving action with courage and clarity and self-respect. And now we come to the final step of the Secure Husband … Read more
In this fifth part of our series, we’ve noticed we’ve made the decision to grow. We’ve connected with the scared inner boy inside of us, and we’ve listened to the voice of truth from our higher power. Now it’s time to act. Welcome back to The Secure Husband article, Bruce Abbott, certified professional coach and … Read more
Welcome back to step four in our six step article series on the Secure Husband Process. So step one, you noticed—you just noticed where you’ve been abandoning yourself. Step two, you made the conscious, courageous decision to take action. Now we’ll figure out what that action is later. In step three, you learned a dialogue … Read more