So you noticed your emotional reactions and your circumstances. You made a choice to grow and show up differently. You connected with your inner child. You listened to your higher power for truth, you took loving action with courage and clarity and self-respect. And now we come to the final step of the Secure Husband … Read more
In this fifth part of our series, we’ve noticed we’ve made the decision to grow. We’ve connected with the scared inner boy inside of us, and we’ve listened to the voice of truth from our higher power. Now it’s time to act. Welcome back to The Secure Husband article, Bruce Abbott, certified professional coach and … Read more
Welcome back to step four in our six step article series on the Secure Husband Process. So step one, you noticed—you just noticed where you’ve been abandoning yourself. Step two, you made the conscious, courageous decision to take action. Now we’ll figure out what that action is later. In step three, you learned a dialogue … Read more
In step one, you just noticed. In step two, you chose intentionally to act. And in step three, we’re gonna heal the wounded child. I. Welcome back to The Secure Husband Article, Bruce Abbott, certified professional coach and founder of SecureHusband.com, where I help good men stop feeling lost in their marriage. This is the … Read more
On our last article, we learned how to notice and be curious, and just be aware of what’s going on inside of you. Now we make a decision. We choose to act and move from noticing to intention. Welcome back to The Secure Husband Article, Bruce Abbott, certified professional coach and founder of SecureHusband.com, where … Read more
In the next six episodes, I’m going to go into detail about the Secure Husband Process and help clarify the different steps. I’ve received so many comments, DMs, and questions about how to actually put this into action. So, let’s start right here—with the first step: noticing. This is where awareness begins. It’s where you … Read more
If you’re a married man who feels disrespected by your wife, it’s probably eating away at you. You don’t want to lash out. You don’t want to shut down. But the sarcasm, the eye rolls, the tone—it hits a nerve. It feels personal. It feels unfair. And it probably feels like it’s happening way too … Read more
Self-sacrifice is not love. It’s not leadership. It’s not strength. It’s not noble. It’s a lie that sounds right and feels right, but deep down it’s not love—it’s a trauma response. And if you’re a man who’s always bending over backward to keep the peace in your marriage… always giving and giving and giving while … Read more
Trying to control the uncontrollable is exhausting. And if you’re a husband who feels stuck, frustrated, or desperate for your wife to change—her affection, her interest in sex, her attitude toward you—you’re not alone. But the more you try to manage her emotions, the more disconnected things become. And it’s likely breaking your heart. You … Read more
“I pretty much married the first woman who would give me attention.” A client said that to me not long ago, and it stopped me in my tracks. If you’ve ever felt that way — like you settled because someone saw you when no one else did — this is for you. Let’s unpack this. … Read more