Bruce Abbott You’ve probably thought it. You might’ve even said it out loud. “She used to be into me. We used to have fun. Now it’s excuses. Duty sex. No spark.” And the message you take from that is simple—but deeply painful: “She doesn’t desire me anymore. Something must be wrong with me… or our marriage.” But … Read more
Never threaten an open marriage to guilt your wife into more sex. It might feel like a way to express your frustration. It might feel like the only card you have left. But I promise you—it will backfire. Because what you’re doing isn’t leadership. It’s sabotage. It’s a pain-driven reaction that will destroy the very … Read more
The Pain of “Starfish Sex” What do you do when sex feels disconnected and one-sided? You’re in bed with your wife. Technically, you’re “together.” But it feels… empty. There’s no eye contact. No enthusiasm. No passion. She’s physically present, but emotionally, it feels like she’s somewhere else. It feels like duty sex. Like she’s just … Read more
You’ve got to stop escaping into fantasy and porn and start healing your reality. I say that with love, because I’ve been there. And I’ve walked alongside men who have too. I know what it’s like when your marriage feels distant. When connection feels rare. When you feel unwanted. So instead of facing that pain, … Read more
So is this real or just insecurity? How do I know if this jealousy I’m feeling is the truth? I hear this question a lot from good men who are struggling in their marriage. And I’ve been there myself. That jealous feeling—that tightness in your chest when your wife seems a little too engaged talking … Read more
There’s a quiet question that lives inside so many marriages:“Why isn’t she into sex as much as I am?” You’re not fighting. Things seem fine.But sex feels rare, low on her list—like an afterthought. And that can leave you feeling confused.Rejected.Even invisible. You start wondering, I get it. I’ve been there.But the truth is, even … Read more
You may think you’re being loving.You may believe you’re thoughtful and generous. But if deep down, you’re giving to get—if your acts of kindness are tied to expectations—you’re not building connection.You’re making unspoken deals your wife never agreed to. And those silent agreements?They’re quietly destroying emotional safety in your marriage. What Giving to Get Really … Read more
Guilt tripping your wife about sex won’t bring her closer. It’ll push her farther away. If you’ve said things like: You’re not alone.I’ve said those things too. But let’s be real: those comments don’t create connection. They create pressure. And no woman becomes more sexually open because she feels emotionally cornered. Why Guilt Backfires Every … Read more
There’s a lie a lot of men believe, and it’s keeping them emotionally starved in their marriage. The lie is this:“If I love myself or take care of myself, I’m being selfish or narcissistic.” Sound familiar? If you’ve ever thought that setting a boundary or speaking your truth meant you were being controlling…If you’ve ever … Read more
Why It Feels So Tempting to Start Over If you’re in a marriage that feels cold, disconnected, or just plain lonely, it’s easy to start fantasizing. You might catch yourself thinking about what it would be like to start over. To be with someone who finally sees you, who desires you, who wants to connect … Read more