Expectations and Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire

You’ve probably thought it. You might’ve even said it out loud. “She used to be into me. We used to have fun. Now it’s excuses. Duty sex. No spark.” And the message you take from that is simple—but deeply painful: “She doesn’t desire me anymore. Something must be wrong with me… or our marriage.” But … Read more

Never Threaten An Open Marriage To Guilt Your Wife Into Sex

Never threaten an open marriage to guilt your wife into more sex. It might feel like a way to express your frustration. It might feel like the only card you have left. But I promise you—it will backfire. Because what you’re doing isn’t leadership. It’s sabotage. It’s a pain-driven reaction that will destroy the very … Read more

What To Do When Sex Feels One-Sided and Disconnected

The Pain of “Starfish Sex” What do you do when sex feels disconnected and one-sided? You’re in bed with your wife. Technically, you’re “together.” But it feels… empty. There’s no eye contact. No enthusiasm. No passion. She’s physically present, but emotionally, it feels like she’s somewhere else. It feels like duty sex. Like she’s just … Read more