Bruce Abbott You’re Not Wrong for Needing Affection “Dude, you may be able to live without touch and affection, but I sure as hell can’t.”That was a comment someone left on one of my previous episodes. And I get it. I really do. But this conversation isn’t about giving up touch and affection in marriage.It’s about healing … Read more
Yes, you and your wife are both 100% responsible for your own happiness—but you still influence hers. You Are Responsible For You You are the only one responsible for your happiness. Not your wife. Not your kids. Not your job. Not your parents. Not your friends. Not the market. Not the weather. Not your favorite … Read more
In most marriages, there’s a honeymoon phase. Even in the healthiest marriages, that phase comes to an end. When the Honeymoon Ends Most men say the pivot happens after kids or a shift in the family dynamic. Suddenly, desire fades. Not completely, but noticeably. That doesn’t mean she’s rejecting you. It’s a natural transition. But … Read more
So if I stop chasing my wife for affection and sex, am I just giving up on ever having that as part of our marriage again? No. And that’s why letting go of pressure doesn’t mean letting go of hope. I remember when I was in this same situation. I hear it over and over … Read more
Ever wonder why, when you try to love your wife, it just comes off as controlling or insecure? It’s because what you’re calling love… is often neediness in disguise. You think you’re being romantic. You think you’re being caring and affectionate. But what she feels is pressure, control, emotional weight, clinging, and jealousy. And instead … Read more
There’s a common theme I hear over and over with the men I work with: “I feel alone in my marriage.” “I’m sleeping right next to her, but I feel completely lonely.” “We live in the same house, but I feel invisible. She doesn’t touch me. She doesn’t seem to care.” If that strikes a … Read more
Most of the men I work with still want their wife. They still love her. They still want to hold her. They long for connection, affection, closeness, warmth. But something’s shifted. She’s pulled back. You don’t know how to reach her anymore. Every time you try, she tenses up. And you feel rejected again. So … Read more
You may love your wife. She may love you. But she cannot be your source of love. If you’ve been feeling rejected when she pulls away… worthless when she’s not affectionate… or like your entire identity depends on her desire or mood… then you’ve been trying to make your wife your source of love. And … Read more
So if communication is so important in marriage, why is it every time I have the talk with my wife about sex, things get worse? Let’s be real. Most of us guys have been there. I’ve been there. You’re hurting. You’re feeling lonely. You want connection. So today’s the day—you decide to sit her down … Read more
This is it. You can feel it. The texts are cold. Her eyes don’t light up. There’s no warmth. No touch. She’s said the words: “I don’t know if I can do this anymore.” Or maybe, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” You’ve pushed her away—whether slowly through neglect or quickly … Read more